Go Slow to Go Fast

What does it mean “go slow to go fast?” When I googled to find an image for this, I was amazed at how many words and images I found.

Here is what it means to me: when I am the most stressed, stretched or unfocused, it is precisely the time I need to slow down and regroup. And this is precisely when I am most resistant to doing it – it’s counter-intuitive and contrary to my conditioning. My thinking goes like this, “AH! I don’t have time! I have to speed up and get all these tings done. There are too many competing priorities.” This is where the illusion of time – and bending it – comes into play.

Time is very much a mental construct. We’ve all had experiences where time seems to painfully stretch out or goes by in a nanosecond. It is not the linear concept of time but our experience of it.

When I work with my clients, we balance WHAT is getting done – the results – with HOW it is getting done. Everyone wants to just focus on the results. When you do this at the expense of the how, paradoxically, you will not get the results that you seek.

Here’s an example: I am working with a senior leadership team to set an offsite strategy-planning meeting. It has taken a lot of discussion for them to agree they need this concentrated time together. It has taken a lot of coordination of calendars to set a date. Then when we finally get everyone in the room, it takes a lot to turn off laptops, cell phones and be fully present to the issues that need a concentrated focus. Once this happens, I have often witnessed teams changing either the work itself or how they address it. This includes the priorities – how they think about them and align to them – and how they feel about the work. Inevitably everyone leaves thinking and feeling differently.

This shift can surface as experiencing a reality check in terms of what it is really going to take to move forward – renewed hope, optimism or just being more in sync.

With all our technology and ways to speed up communication, there is nothing that takes the place of getting in a room together and hashing things out. This is slowing down. This enables you to make better, more bought into solutions. This alignment can save you weeks and months of misunderstandings, conflict or churn.

This week’s reflection question: Where do you individually or collectively need some time out to reflect, regroup and re-energize?

I am off to a yoga retreat for the holiday weekend here in the states. I have no doubt I will return refreshed and different. After all, recreation is where we get to re-create ourselves to bring fresh eyes to our work. This is resiliency and the key to sustained productivity.

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Focus Friday: Setting Your Day With Daily Rituals to Support Your Success

It has often been cited that successful people have daily rituals that they practice first thing in the morning that supports them in accomplishing their goals.

If you don’t have a daily ritual, I encourage you to discover one. If you do, I encourage you to revisit what you do and why you do it. Why? To make sure you are setting the right tone to your day – in terms of attitude, mindset and content. When I don’t practice my daily ritual first thing in the morning, my day is usually off. I am not at the top of my game.

Here is my daily ritual: Once I am aware I am awake, I practice alternate nostril breathing while lying in bed. This rebalances my brain. I get up, wash my face, brush my teeth and take a quick shower and have a glass of warm water with lemon. I then go into my home office and sit on the floor. I write in a journal listing all the people and things I am grateful for in my life and then do my Kundalini yoga and meditation practice.

If I wake up late or have an early meeting and can’t get my full practice in (45-75 minutes), I will do at least a 15 minute warm up and the rest later. It is a non-negotiable for me to do everyday. When I don’t do it first thing, it doesn’t set my day the same way.

Since there is often a lot that is uncertain or unresolved in my business, my practice helps me lower my anxiety. I will often open a couple of emails that are daily inspirational videos or quotes to give me a lift. I then go to my calendar and to do list I drafted the night before to determine where I start my workday.

I will admit there are days where I check my email on my phone while lying in bed or just before I wash my face. (I do not keep my phone by my bed but in the bathroom behind a closed door so I have to get up and get it). What happens when I do this? I am setting my day in a reaction versus proactive mode. It is enticing to be in this mode. It really requires discipline to not peak at all those emails. Some are junk and some are urgent but not important. In any case, it does not put me in the drivers seat for my day so I am working on eliminating doing this at all until I have finished my practice. But it can be so enticing!

What are positive ways you set your day? Where are you vulnerable to jumping in, in reaction mode before breakfast?

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Magic Monday: Focus on What Works

Where can you find the magic at work today?

Since our brains are wired for survival, we typically focus on the glass being half empty versus half full. We are always measuring and calculating how far off we are from our goals or what we desire. At the root of this behavior is our built-in hard wiring to ensure we are safe or okay in some way – whether it’s a roof over our heads, the raise we want, or the recognition we feel we deserve.

Measurements are important so we can gauge what else or more we need to do to get what we want.
Sometimes this focus on not having enough, doing enough or being enough can be exhausting and discouraging. Since we live in a consumer-oriented society, these messages can barrage us constantly daily. We are told we need some new product to be okay – or we didn’t measurement up in our performance review at work in the way we thought.

My invitation this week is to measure what’s working and notice why. Be in the half full glass. This energy can help build ease, momentum, and get you where you want to be in a different way. Appreciative Inquiry is a technique used to positively manage change in organizations. It’s about “the coevolutionary search for the best in people, their organizations, and the relevant world around them.” When leaders embody these positive behaviors themselves it has a big impact on the people around them. In the words of appreciative inquiry – engage in “unconditional positive questions.”

This week’s reflection question: What do you appreciate about what is present and working, not what is absent or dysfunctional?

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Magic Monday: Happiness, Productivity & What’s Right with You

Words of Manic Monday by The Bangles and modified by Susan Shaner. Musician: Dan Brodax. Where can you find the magic at work today?

Many years ago when I was in graduate school studying to become an expressive art therapist, I had a fundamental issue with the clinical model. It mostly focused on what was wrong with people. I saw clinicians, who had lives falling apart, judging other people’s states of mind and daily living skills. They say there is a fine line between mental illness, madness and creativity & productivity.
I gravitated away from clinical work into business because I wanted to focus on what was good and right with people and help them achieve their goals. Since a whole field of positive psychology has developed.

In my corporate work the last 25 years, I have helped leaders and professionals seek the expression of their highest potential. I have seen many who are depressed, narcissistic and incredibly anxious achieve great things – even though. Let’s face it, we are all broken in some way – or at least far from perfect – despite what our social media posts indicate.

No matter where I go, I can’t move away from the human condition – this tendency to look for what is wrong or to seek perfection. Many company performance reviews leave people feeling not valued or underappreciated.

Regardless of your industry – business, healthcare or education – the invitation is to carry on and strive to be your best version of yourself – even though – Even though you have a boss who unconsciously sabotages you, a peer who always steals credit, a spouse who tries to control you, or yourself who wanes on being disciplined and confident and you hope no one will find you out. That’s a lot to manage!

The invitation everyday is to do our part to find what is good and right in them, in ourselves and in our work. This enables us to have the attitude, strength and fortitude to overcome challenges and achieve that which we seek.

While hanging out over the holiday, my daughter picked the movie for us to watch: Happy, a documentary by Roko Belic. Ironic, since last week I was talking about the difference between happiness and satisfaction. She had no idea as she does not read my posts. So many gems in this movie that I will be mining this over the next few weeks.

Ed Deiner, at the University of Illinois said “a person’s values are among the best predictors of their happiness. People who value money, power, fame and good looks are less likely to be happy than people who value compassion, cooperation, and a willingness to make the world a better place.”

There is a ton of research that says that when you are happier, you are more productive. The capstones of achieving greater happiness discussed in the film: 1) personal growth 2) relationships (building/nurturing) and 3) helping others/community.

Reflection questions to consider: What do you value? What makes you happy? What factors enable you to be most productive?

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Follow up Friday: How Do You Stay Dialed In?

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Monday I asked you to reflect on where you can more closely align your passion with your leadership or how you can unleash other people’s passion and leadership. How do you say dialed into passion?

Here is what I noticed: While passion is an emotion, it starts and ends with the mind. Many of us have the tape running in our head that says, “this is what I LOVE to do…but this is what I HAVE to do.”

This is a mindset – a setting or set of messages in our inner landscape that is based on who we inherently are and our conditioning (messages others have given us). This statement says I can’t do what I love.

When your mind clicks into what you love, you know it, you feel it. When you are not in this space, it’s usually because you have given permission for someone else’s voice to override you. Claim yourself. Claim your passion.

It’s not an either/or situation. We all have things we don’t like to do but have to. When you approach the “HAVE Tos” from the perspective of being in your passion, they are easier to do, because you are loving the ride. It is a matter of degree.

Living in your passion 80% of the time, gives you the energy and positive attitude to address the 20% of tasks you don’t like. If the situation is reversed and you are spending 80% of your time on things you don’t like to do, then naturally you are going to experience a slew of negative thoughts and feelings (boredom, anger, depression, resentment) that will leave you stuck or in a downward spiral.

Passion is your greatest leverage and inoculation against being overwhelmed by challenge. Life can be hard. Who wouldn’t welcome more ease and flow? When you are dialed directly into your passion, it effects everyone around you and compounds the collective energy.

How do I stay dialed in?

I NOTICE where my mind goes and I am VIGILANT about LISTENING to my inner thermostat and RESETTING the dial when I need to turn up the heat. I NOTICE and LISTEN to what excites other people and ADJUST my actions to better support them.

How do you stay dialed in?

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Follow Up Friday: Exhale Fullness

Have you ever had the experience of being really full and letting out a big exhale sigh? Aaah. When you exhale through your mouth, you are working on your digestive system. It’s a detoxification breath. Usually this is an unconscious gesture. Your body is doing what it needs to, to reset itself.

Our bodies naturally tend toward equilibrium. When we don’t have enough food, it will reset it’s metabolism so you won’t starve. And when you’ve eaten too much, it will do things to try and digest the food, even when it feels overtaxed.

I had this experience this morning and I associated it with the mindfulness work we have been doing all week in this blog. I’ve been focused on abundance or have more than enough.

It’s not so much what we experience in life but the perspective and meaning we associate with an experience that shapes our reality.

I was scheduled to teach my weekly kundalini yoga class this morning at 7 am. I thought of cancelling it, but didn’t. As I hung out with my family last night feeling stuffed, I dreaded getting up to teach the class and wished I had cancelled. Here in the states, the day after Thanksgiving is one spent sleeping in after a carbohydrate overload, shopping or hanging out with loved ones visiting.
So, I was not surprised when no one came to class this morning. I could have been upset, bummed, annoyed, etc. Instead, I did my daily yoga and meditation practice to an empty room. I decided when I got home I would climb back into bed and take a nap as I had planned a day off with my daughter who was home from college and still sleeping.

As I drove home, I suddenly noticed I took a big exhale and, not only felt physically full (I hadn’t eaten yet) but felt a deep sense of how full my life was. I had cooked yesterday for my daughter, her friend, a friend of mine and her daughter. Between turkey and pie everyone fell asleep on various couches in different rooms. I stayed awake and cleaned. I was not upset that I had little help cleaning. Instead I felt a deep sense of gratitude for having a full house – and one where guests felt comfortable enough to find a couch and drop on it.

I associated my deep exhale this morning with how I have been working on reworking my conditioning to notice and appreciate how full my life is. It’s no coincidence that a contract I have been working on for three months finally closed the day before Thanksgiving. One has deep exhales when they feel full. It’s enough. I don’t need anymore.

Focusing on what we want, not what we don’t want, helps us get more of what we want.

Gratitude grows.

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Shifting Your Conditioning: Flowing in Your Spiritual Domain

All week we’ve been exploring how you rewire your conditioning to better serve you in what you want to have in your life. It requires changing your thought pattern. You can release a negative thought pattern and replace it with a positive one – and sometimes you can just replace it with a positive one and the negative one automatically just falls away.

The key with this entire process is being tuned in, not tuned out of yourself. Notice what has you associating strong, positive emotions to your thoughts and moving them physically through your body.

When all domains – mental, emotional and physical are in sync, then you have, what I call, a spiritual sense of flow in your life. You are in tune, have purpose, meaning and are deeply engaged with, and loving your life. It doesn’t mean that you can’t experience a sense of spirit when things are difficult or you are in struggle. Sometimes these are the most spiritually initiating times in your life. You feel yourself through the pain. The spirit comes through with the work to rise above the challenge and persevere and carry on, even though.

Amidst life, one kind of thought rises above all others. It is like the queen of all thoughts that possesses super powers, working on layers of deeper emotions we aren’t always aware of – this is GRATITUDE. Other similar words are Thankful, appreciative. Any thought or emotion where you bless, recognize or are grateful for what you currently have, who you are or what do you do. When this permeates your entire being, then life flows peacefully within and around you, even if your environment is in crisis or chaos. It’s finding your peace within.

Today, in the United States, we celebrate our national holiday: Thanksgiving. The original intent was to sit around a dining table and feast on the harvest of the season – to share our bounty with family, friends and neighbors. This is my favorite holiday as it is about making and sharing good food. We nourish our body with food, mind with great conversation, emotions with connections, and spirit with an overall sense of vitality even if there is still pain and suffering in the world. We can all pause and say thank you for this one precious life.

Thank you for being part of this journey with me. Regardless of where you live, today I invite you to identify just one person, experience, thing you are grateful for in your life. I guarantee, it will uplift you and shed some of the toxins that are hiding out in one of your domains.

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Shifting Your Conditioning: Managing Your Physical Domain

So, we’ve talked about changing your thoughts, getting clear on your emotions and clearing your negative emotions. All of this is connected to, and manifests in, your physical body.

When you notice feelings that you don’t want – such as fear, terror, panic – they show up in your body with tense muscles, a constricted throat or abdomen, clenched fists and furrowed brows. You might notice the bodily sensations before you are aware of your thoughts or emotions. Think of each of these domains as a portal through which you enter to become aware of what is going on with you. Some people are more mentally, emotionally or kinesthetically-oriented.

In the physical domain, all of life happens through expansion and contraction. Negative emotions create tension and contraction. Positive emotions are expansive, relaxing and uplifting.

It’s important to release the tension in a safe way – such as going for a walk, running, punching pillows, lifting weights or some other kind of physical exercise or activity. I know someone who goes on a raging cleaning and decluttering binge when they are angry. Also, what you put in or on your body also plays a role in how resilient your body is in handling the stress and toxins that negative thoughts and emotions create.

With physical activity, the single most important thing you can do is to breathe more deeply. This gets more oxygen to the brain. Movement gets the blood circulating, literally moving the emotions and thoughts through the body. The focus is on release and discharge, not holding onto these thoughts and feelings that are not serving you.

Once the negative emotions and thoughts are discharged, you want to ground the positive ones in your body as well. Going for a walk in nature can be meditative and relaxing, allowing your body to open up to expansive ways of thinking, being and knowing. Stretching your body, specifically rolling and releasing your shoulders helps.

Try closing your eyes and reciting outloud to yourself your new mantra. The example I used yesterday was “I have abundance.” As you take deep breaths in, visualize what this means for you. Allow yourself time and space to be in your body with these positive thoughts and emotions – literally stretch into them to take them in. Allow yourself full expression of the joy, fullness, and excitement of this thought and the emotions it evokes.

When you are happy and enthusiastic you might jump up and down, put a skip in your step, dance, hug someone, clap, hum or sing – even as an adult! The more you can play with this physical way of expressing the new thought and emotion, the more likely it is that you cement the new conditioning. Repetition and having fun help.

So, give it a try: grab a hold of possibility and breathe deeply into it while skipping a beat.

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Shifting Your Conditioning: Choosing Your Emotional Domain

Yesterday I asked you to rewrite a thought associated with your negative conditioning to make it more positive. This doesn’t necessarily mean that your thought pattern will change. It means you are now aware of the subconscious pattern that has been influencing your life – what you believe to be true. A belief is what you think even if you have no evidence to substantiate it. Beliefs are reinforced by emotions associated with a thought and we look for ways to reinforce our beliefs. We ignore anything that contradicts our beliefs. Now you are going to change a thought and associate other emotions with it and look for ways to reinforce this thought over time.

Having a statement that you say to yourself can be powerful – but only if two things happen – you really believe what you are saying and have some emotion behind it. Once you have an emotionally charged statement you say to yourself over and over, it can’t help but shift your mindset and therefore your actions and results.

For illustrative purposes, I am going to use my example of “I don’t have enough.” This could come into play when thinking about not just money, but enough experience, skills, courage, friends, peace, connections, etc. It can be a negative, self-defeating program running in the background of your mind influencing the way you approach everything. It’s your mindset. When considering the emotional domain, notice what feelings surface as you think of these words. Don’t judge feelings as good or bad.

For me, emotions like fear, defeat, terror, panic surface. How do they serve me? They keep me protected from danger but also can hold me back from things I don’t want to do. At it’s extreme these emotions can paralyze me into non-action. Or they can incite me into action to avoid these feelings – but again, the negative feelings are still running the show.

If I change this phrase to “I have abundance,” this has such a different meaning and feeling. When I dwell on this phrase, feelings like safety, security, feeling full, all surface. I’m not as worried. I need to really believe this is the case, not just recite it to myself or tell myself to feel a certain way. You cannot force yourself to feel certain things – only allow and create the conditions for different feelings to surface.

What helps with this next piece is to visualize and notice all the ways I truly do have abundance like my health, money in the bank, supportive relationships, work I love, etc. When I focus on naming things that are really true, and truly appreciate them, this act associates this thought with these emotions solidifying the conditioning around it. This process requires repetition and choosing to express certain feelings. Your mind got conditioned over many years so it will take practice to shift.

Adding expression, and even music or images (drawings – words or color) can also help with accessing positive emotions. Dwell on your new mantra and enjoy!

Ultimately, the fastest way to release old conditioning is to get really clear about what you are feeling and then to clear the emotions that are negative – detox. Some of this detox is actually a physical process as thoughts and emotions are connected to the body. We are going to continue with the physical domain tomorrow.

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Magic Monday: Part 3 of 3 – One Thought Experiment: Shifting Your Conditioning

Words of Manic Monday by The Bangles and modified by Susan Shaner. Musician: Dan Brodax.

Where can you find the magic at work today?

During the last three weeks, we focused on noticing and managing a dominant thought pattern. This week’s focus is on how to shift a pattern that is not working for you. To recap, here are the steps:

1. Notice your thoughts.
2. Understand where your thoughts come from: how these patterns define your belief system and have roots in your subconscious mind, typically conditioning from someone or somewhere else.
3. Shift a thought pattern that is not serving you in the best way.

Sometimes you can shift a pattern just by noticing it; sometimes with insight into the source of the unconscious messaging and the underlying beliefs; and sometimes you need to do some more heavy lifting over time.

To shift it over time, you need to work it in three domains: mental, emotional and physical. When you do this, you are effecting your entire energy field, which effects your vitality of spirit. So there is a fourth domain: a spiritual one. It is how you find meaning, energy and a deep engagement with life. The ways we manage our mind is foundational to vitality, which is why mindfulness practices are so popular today. True mindfulness is about noticing what is being expressed in all these domains, not just the mental one.

Today, I will focus on the mental domain. Tuesday – the emotional; Wednesday – the physical, and Thursday – the spiritual. Friday we will do our follow-up check-in. Mental – Replace your undesired thought pattern with a different thought that will direct your subconscious mind in the direction you want to shift it.

Let’s take my example of “the enoughs” – not having enough, being enough, doing enough. Last week I got clear on where this message came from and now I am clear on how it has served me. It drives me to want to do more, have more and be more. This thought sets the context for how I respond or react to people or events. The positive is, I’m always striving to grow and better myself. The downside is, it can foster exhaustion and a chronic discontentment – to never be happy with who I am or where I am at, what I am doing or what I have.

The key of your next messaging is to get clear on the shift you want to create and craft a new mantra to say to yourself when the old message surfaces. The word mantra refers to where you project (focus) your mind. In crafting your message, ask yourself, how can I retain the benefits of my message (in my case: be better, do/have what I need to), without the downside (exhaustion and discontent)? Here are two possible directions to change my thoughts:

1. To accept who I am, what I do and what I have as is: ENOUGH
Thoughts can change to:
I am enough.
I have enough.
I do enough.
The focus here is on appreciating what is, not changing anything externally. Yet it results in external changes such as making decisions that come from an orientation of being satisfied versus dissatisfied.
Or even more powerful shifts would be to replace the word enough with mantras like:
I love and accept myself exactly as I am.
I have abundance.
I serve in full ways.

2. To recognize that who I am, what I do or what I have is MORE THAN ENOUGH:
I am more than enough – I can ratchet myself back.
I do more than enough – I can take things off my plate.
I have more than enough – I purge and declutter at home (stuff) or at work (projects, emails).
The intent here is to have the thoughts change behavior.

Write down your mantra. Place it in a prominent place – on your phone, on your desk, in your car, on your bathroom mirror. Say it outloud and silently to yourself. Repetition is key. You are rewiring your brain.

Your invitation this week, is to play with new messaging for yourself, working it in all domains: mental, emotional, physical and spiritual. What needs to shift in your life at work or at home? It starts with you.

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Do What You Cannot Do

I work with people to unleash their passion and personal leadership. I intend to practice what I preach. Fear often gets in the way.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Courage is more exhilarating than fear and in the long run it is easier. We do not have to become heroes overnight. Just a step at a time, meeting each thing that comes up, seeing it is not as dreadful as it appeared, discovering we have the strength to stare it down.”

There is a lot of fear circulating on the planet today in light of the recent terrorist attacks. They have generated trauma and are threatening people’s sense of safety and security. When in survival mode, it is difficult to be calm and creative. Since this is the soup we are all collectively swimming in, it can be hard not to be effected by fear and feed it. The invitation is to find what is within your control to effect and take tuned-in action. Tuned-in action is where you are clear on what is within your sphere to influence, and listen with a rational mind, trust your intuition and act.

We all have fears we manage on a daily basis – some large, some insignificant. One of mine was coming up with generating enough content, inspiration and time to write in this blog for 30 days. Instead of backing off from the challenge or stopping, I got started and have been committed to it. Here is what I am discovering – the more I move toward it and work in this space, the more ideas come. Coming out of my meditation this morning, my hand couldn’t move fast enough to jot down ideas pouring out of my head.

What have you been afraid to do that you can get started on today? Take one step.

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Follow up Friday: Enough is Enough!

Monday I asked you to analyze your conditioning – to explore where your repetitive thought pattern comes from, what feelings you have about it and if it’s helpful or not. This a lot to think about!

A significant thought pattern I’ve worked with in my life is “the enoughs” (be enough, have enough, do enough). I received this message so many times from so many sources in my life. The message in my family growing up is we never had enough money. I grew up in an educational system that was always sending messages I wasn’t enough or didn’t measure up if I didn’t have all As on my report card. I grew up in a religion that said I wasn’t acceptable enough – I was born bad and I had to spend the rest of my life making up for it. I grew up in a culture that said I always need more things – more food, more toys, more friends, more of everything – to be okay – nothing was ever enough. I went to work for companies that said I didn’t work hard enough or do enough. I didn’t have to look to hard – I was flooded with this message of “not enough.” Wow. It’s quite a mental beating in a way.

How did this serve me? It always had me striving – maniacally driving myself – to do more, be more, have more. I am not a shopper but a collector of books, travel and educational experiences. I could never have enough knowledge or experience. Then one day, I realized how exhausting this was and why I was never satisfied with where I was at, or with myself.

I’ve been aware of, and have worked on this thought pattern for a quite a while now. It’s shifted substantially.

Well, I say now, enough IS enough! I can strive for more to an extent that works for me, not what society says. I can strive to be more of who I am meant to be, in a more sane way. I can accept myself just the way I am, thank you.

Monday, I will talk more about how to go deeper with shifting and releasing a repetitive thought pattern.

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Your Energetic Blueprint Runs The Show

I use the term energetic blueprint to refer to the imprinting you have that effects your energy field. Your energy field is the electromagnetic field that surrounds your body anywhere from 3-9 feet around you. How large it is reflects how vital or strong your life force is.

What you think, how you feel and what you put into, or on your body, all effect this field (i.e., drugs, alcohol, food, sex). If you don’t experience the right amount or quality of energy you want in your life, exploring how you manage your personal energy field could be beneficial for you.

What you think includes your mental model of the world – the rules you have that govern how you view the world and live your life. Some are unconscious and inherited by your conditioning, and some you consciously chose. The more aware you are of what you believe, why you believe it, and the effects these beliefs have on your emotions and your body, the more choice you have to keep or change something.

Examples of inherited influences are your parents (obvious and most profound), your schooling, religion, culture, and organizations for which you work. Mental thought patterns effect how you feel. Thoughts and emotions manifest in your body. Positive thoughts show up with ease of movement and more energy to live your life. Negative thoughts show up as undesired tension, illness, injury or disease. The word disease literally means dis-ease. You are not at ease with something. There is stress or tension in your body in a such a way that it creates secondary effects that your body tries to heal. The body will naturally strive toward equilibrium.

Ease or disease can start with a thought which then evokes an emotion which then creates a physical manifestation. It sounds linear and clear and clean but there may be back and forthing and overlap between these domains – mental, emotional, physical. The totality of these domains working synergistically create a vitality of spirit or strong electromagnetic field.

In this clip, Tony Robbins is able to help Kamilla become aware of the rules she has for her emotions and other people, and the negative impact it has on her life. He facilitates her awareness and shifts her energy. This is similar to the work I do with my clients in helping them identify, shift and release patterns in life or at work that are not serving them to enable greater productivity, satisfaction or joy.

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Conditioning, Commitment & The Negative Mind

While I have been writing in this blog twice a week for a couple months now, for the next 30 days (December 17th), I am challenging myself to write a post every day.

When I first committed to this, my negative mind kicked-in reeling with messages: oh no! What will I write about? How will I get my other work done? Can I really do this? What if I don’t do this – or miss some days? I’ll figure it out. I’ll work it out. Yes. Life will go on.

Our negative mind serves us well in that it is our more primitive brain, wired for survival. It’s designed to protect us from harm or death. It worked well when we were hunting in the jungle. While life in the workplace may feel like a jungle at times, rarely are we in physical harm. Although psychological or emotional harm can happen, often it is imagined.

I not only committed to do this to myself, but also to a blogger community – and now you. Full disclosure. So I will! I’m up against the conditioning of a thought pattern I am working with – What is enough?

Once I made, what I perceive to be, a huge commitment, I stopped breathing and asked myself – do I really want to do this? What value will this bring? For my audience – I aspire to provocative thought, insight and practical tips on leadership, wellness and self management – better managing your own energy for optimal outcomes. For myself – strengthen my writing, creativity and resourcefulness muscles.

I hope you will accompany me on this journey. What is enough? Bring it on! One thing I know for sure – one post a day is more than enough for me.

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Magic Monday: Part 2 of 3 – One Thought Experiment: Analyzing Your Conditioning

Words of Manic Monday by The Bangles and modified by Susan Shaner. Musician: Dan Brodax.

Where can you find the magic at work today?

Last week I asked you to notice your repetitive thought patterns. This raises your awareness, without judgment, about the thoughts that underlie your behavior.

I took it a step further and noted my thought pattern of “the enoughs” (be enough, have enough, do enough) wasn’t helpful. In this instance, when you identify a pattern that is not helpful or affirming, I recommend shifting it. The next step in shifting it is to understand the roots and the extensions of this thought.

The roots: Where does your thought pattern come from?

Most of the time, our thoughts are conditioned into us from external sources that are always sending us messages about how to think or behave, what’s acceptable, what we should want, etc. Often this conditioning hits us at an unconscious level. There are layers to this conditioning. Sources could be your parents, your family, the environment you grew up in, the culture you grew up in or currently live in, your schooling, your religion, the company or organization you work for, the media and so on.

The extensions: What memories or associations do you have with this thought? A thought evokes further thoughts or judgments or emotions. You could think the thought is a good or bad one. The thought might makes you happy, energized, angry or sad.

This week’s reflection: Explore and understand the thought pattern you noticed last week more deeply by analyzing you conditioning – where it originated from, and noting what subsequent thoughts or feelings emerge from holding this thought. Is this thought pattern helpful to you or not?

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Follow up Friday: Being Liked Or Respected – Can You Be Both?

This week’s question: What conditioning supports or impedes you in accomplishing what you want?

Here’s is what I noticed with one of my clients who is struggling with her leadership team. She really wants to be like, and for people to love working for her. She feels her leadership team is holding her back by not being proactive and not doing what they say they will do. So, this week we explored the difference between being nurturing and holding people accountable.

She said she didn’t have any female role models who could do both – women are either too nurturing and pushovers or too firm and called b—hes for being assertive. What does this story have to do with conditioning? Everything! We have a cultural, collective conditioning around gender stereotypes.

Why is it not okay for a woman leader to be both nurturing and assertive in holding people accountable? How can women do this? Of course this applies to men also – stereotypically men are more comfortable in holding people accountable than being nurturing.

Keeping either men or women stuck in one of these ways of being is not helpful. We need both men and women leaders to exercise both characteristics – nurture and develop their people – but also be firm and hold them accountable when they haven’t done something that they need to do or the way in which they need to do it.

Another way to explore these two polarities is to wrestle with the question how can you be liked and also be respected for making tough decisions?

In the case of my client, She is making progress on her pattern of not acting on what she knows she needs to do. Do you have a pattern of behaving that is getting in the way of your success? Do you need help replacing it with a more effective pattern? If so, I’d love to hear from you and see how I can help.

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Magic Monday: What’s Conditioning Go To Do With It?

Words of Manic Monday by The Bangles and modified by Susan Shaner. Musician: Dan Brodax.

Where can you find the magic at work?

Last week we talked about how terror makes you acutely aware of your gap: how far you are from where you want to be. Today I am asking you to analyze how your conditioning supports or impedes your ability to close that gap. The belief that you can or can’t do something is a huge factor in your success.

I always told my daughter she was smart and creative and if she worked hard enough, she could do or be anything she set her mind to. When she was 7 or 8 years old, she was trying to unfasten the bolt on the handlebars on her bicycle so we could raise it. It was really stuck. She began grunting and groaning trying with all her might to loosen it. I tried and realized it was stronger than both of us. She pulled the bike back from me. I asked her to let my friend, Dan, try as the bolt was really stuck.

She wouldn’t let go of the bike. I said, “It’s too hard. Let him do it.”

She screamed in agonizing frustration, “NOOOO!!!! I can do it!!! You always told me I could do anything!”

Stopped in my tracks, my mind raced. She was resilient and strong-willed – a good thing. How do I help her understand when to persevere against all odds, when to accept help and when to accept the limitations of her ability in an empowered way? Big questions for a young girl and even bigger questions that we live with as adults.

My daughter is now a freshwoman at a highly competitive college, so clearly she got past the defeat of the bicycle. Since, she and I have had dozens of conversations about navigating what I call the discernment space: how to know when you need to push forward – work harder, smarter or be more disciplined – and when you need to let go and accept help or give up and realize your limitations and cull the learnings to move forward differently.

This week’s reflection question: What conditioning supports or impedes you in accomplishing what you want?

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