Showing posts with label Emotional Domain. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Emotional Domain. Show all posts

Saturday, December 31, 2016

Creating Space. Good-bye 2016. Hello 2017.

Creating space is my mantra for 2017, to ensure I have a joyous, thriving year, regardless of what is going on around me.

This past month, my email inbox has been flooded with people trying to thank me, sell me and give me messages over the holidays and for the coming year.

I waited until the end of the year to publish my message.

My message is a simple, twofold one:

First, Thank you for being part of my professional world. You are either a colleague, a client, a friend, an interested person or a combination of some of the above.

My world is richer because you are in it. My hope is that I have, and can continue to create value for you – to provide provoking questions, thoughts and support that spur you on to grow personally and professionally.

Second, my invitation for you today is to find the time to proactively create space in your life this next year. By this, I mean space in the abstract and practical sense. This is a practical and spiritual practice:
  • Create space in your calendar – time when you have nothing scheduled. Time when you DO nothing.
  • Create space in your to do list – find time to meander through a task everyday without the pressure of “getting it done.” Relish the task itself.
  • Create space in your goals – don’t overstretch yourself that you exhaust yourself or everyone around you.
  • Create space in your physical surroundings – declutter and only keep the bare essentials of what you need or use or that which makes you feel joy and love.
  • Create space in your relationships – allow silence and time to just be with another and observe and listen more to what they need.
  • Create space in your emotional life to allow for what you feel to emerge and be attended to.
  • Create space for what is important to you, really.
  • Create space for personal, private time with yourself to tune into what is happening within you. I promise this will enable you to be more present to what is happening around you.
My primary practice this year will be to create space to allow myself more room to breathe – literally and figuratively. This requires that I also practice trust and the art of receiving.

By removing things, people, tasks, goals from my life that don’t serve my highest good, I trust I will have exactly what I need. I am entertaining the thought that less is more, truly.

I will create room to receive that which better serves me. When I am served, I can better serve. When I serve, I receive. It’s a beautiful circular garden that needs mindful tending to, to fully blossom.

This mentality requires that I truly believe I am enough and have enough for a thrillingly thriving life.

Will you join me in this practice of creating space? Where will you start? What is getting thrown in the trash today?

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Wednesday, November 30, 2016


If you are a high achieving leader, you love nothing more than a meaty challenge. How do you find your sweet spot of being energized by a challenge that will stretch, and maybe tax you, but not overly so? It’s in overcoming our greatest challenges that we can feel really alive and accomplished.

Yet there is a fine line between feeling the tension of a challenge, getting out of your comfort zone, and feeling the stress, pressure or overwhelm of being stretched beyond what you think you can do.
Do you have a sense of where this fine line is? Sometimes your anxiety can fuel you to seek alternative ways to overcome obstacles, and sometimes it can disable you.

If you are in tired, anxious, burnt out mode, you may have crossed the line.

A key leadership competency is as basic as taking a pause, deep breath, and to qualify yourself in any given moment. This is the first step required to recalibrate your frame of mind and be able to push past and through these feeling states. And yet it is the very feelings of passion, desire and drive that can propel you to proactive action.

Here is an exercise you can use in the moment of recalibration to presence yourself so you can think more clearly:

Bring the tips of your fingers together such as presented above. Close your eyes. Take an inhale breath through your nose, counting to four. Suspend your breath for a four count. Exhale through your nose for a four count. Increase the time as your lung capacity allows. Continue this cycle for 60-90 seconds.

Notice any sensations in your body. Notice your thoughts. Pay attention to the quality of your thoughts and the tension in your body. Does this challenge feel to be the right one – you are just growing and stretching? Do you sense excitement, love and passion? Or are your feelings still tense and not good? Is this challenge too much – beyond your capacity to manage?

If the former, how do you move forward knowing this moment will pass?

If the latter, what does it mean for you to admit this to yourself? What then must you do?

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Susan is an executive coach and leadership & organization effectiveness consultant. She also teaches yoga and meditation – tools to keep one sane in insane times. She helps professionals step up to their fullest leadership and growth potential. At times this means overcoming their greatest fears or trauma and getting out of their own way to get important stuff accomplished. Please contact her for a complimentary strategy session. www.sagelead.com.

Friday, April 22, 2016

Focus Friday: The Empathic Leader and Self Care

Empathic Leader
There is a lot written in recent years about the need for a leader to demonstrate empathy when creating a safe, high performing culture for their constituents. When I refer to an empathic leader, I am not referring to someone who can demonstrate empathy. I am referring to someone in a leadership role who is considered a highly sensitive person – an empath. This is someone who feels what others feels and may often feel overwhelmed by this sensitivity and the environments in which they find themselves. Maybe they have been accused of being too emotional. For more information, you can refer to the work of Judith Orloff, MD, who has written a lot about this way of being.

Often people who are empaths shy away from leadership positions because, if they don’t have solid daily practices, exercising self care to manage this way being, they can be easily overwhelmed. Here is how it can show up: You are constantly stressed or overwhelmed. You are stressed by the deadlines and workload. You absorb and are stressed by what your employees feel consequently your employees feel that from you. It doesn’t matter what you say. They experience what you embody – your emotions and the energy vibe you give off. All the way around it creates a chaotic and unpleasant environment for you and for them.

The good news about being an empath is that you are aware (sometimes painfully so) of how everyone feels. The bad news is, you may take it all on and not filter it or distance yourself from it. When employees are stressed they want two things: the sense that their leader gets them and cares, and wants to, and can fix it for them – create calm or remove the stuff (people, deadlines, projects) that are stressing them out.

But you can’t give away what you don’t have. You can’t create calm if you don’t have calm. It generates from within you. For the Empathic leader the greatest thing you can do is, as the famous analogy states – put the oxygen mask on yourself! First, notice when you are feeling really stressed. Notice the source from which this stress is coming. Exercise extreme self care by mentally and emotionally, and sometimes physically distancing yourself from those employees who are negative. Sometimes you may be sitting in a meeting and it is just your mental or emotional orientation you shift if you need to still interface with them.

Then there is the single more important thing you can do to keep yourself grounded, or to re-ground yourself if you are feeling stressed: Have some kind of daily practice that keeps you centered within yourself. This could be: running, walking, meditating, doing yoga, journaling, talking to a trusted colleague over morning coffee, driving, swimming, prayers, affirmations, etc. It could also be an activity, practice, person or some sort of support group you tap into.

Whatever your “thing” is, do it for at least 20 minutes religiously everyday. This will give a certain baseline from which to navigate from. When you are really stressed, do another 20 minutes and another, etc. A leader’s job, like a parent, is the hardest one as people look to you for support, vision and help, especially when they are stressed.

At Sage Leadership Strategies, this is what we do well – hold the space for leaders to understand their patterns and enhance their approach for greater impact. If you know you can get better results with your constituents but just need some additional support to gain clarity and sort things out, please call us for a complimentary discovery session: 203-730-2103.

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Friday, April 15, 2016

Focus Friday: How Do You Maintain Your Leadership Filter?

leadership-filter

First, what IS a leadership filter?

It’s how you personally filter and process information so you are passing on the right content and tone of your message to your constituents. Are you passing on stress, confusion, or clarity?
I had several conversations with clients this week about this very point. When you are on your email late at night mulling over some upset – do you fire off emails to your team or do you sit with it, filter and digest the issue? It’s about responding versus reacting.

When you react, you are being triggered by something and may come across emotional – tense or stressed. When you respond, you have paused and thought through multiple scenarios and carefully crafted your point of view or request.

A filter is not necessarily about how intelligent you are. It’s mostly about how you are managing your stress and triggers. Are you throwing up your “stuff” on everyone or communicating in a clear way? The first is charged and has a lot of negativity in it. Everyone is triggered by something. The more triggered you are, the more likely it is related to something that was either a traumatic or upsetting event that happened in the past and is no longer relevant, or a worry or anxiety you have about the future. In most instances a strong trigger is related to something that happened when you were a child and felt helpless. Your brain doesn’t always realize you are an independent, strong adult now and it can regress and act from that place.

The more time and workload pressure you are under, the more susceptible you are to throwing stuff to others unfiltered. I call this acting in your back-up style. This is where you literally want to make sure you breathe, pause and compose. By the very nature of it you may not be able to. This is where your amygdala gets “hijacked” The amygdala is a structure located in the temporal lobes of the limbic brain and has the role of memory, decision-making, and emotional reactions. When it gets triggered, I use the word “hijacked” because that is what looks it like – someone took your rational brain and your emotions are off and running.

What is the danger of this behavior? You are expressing (usually) negative emotions and passing the buck by generating stress for your constituents – direct reports, peers, maybe even boss – versus filtering and tempering the message and emotions so it can be received better. In other words, your reaction starts a chain of reactions or escalates things. When you filter, you also shape the message in ways that your constituents can either best digest it or act upon it. It’s not just a “pass through” of information.

So, a filter is not just editing what you say but how you say it. The tone is the most important thing people usually react to. Make sure it is music (a clear, less-charged request) and not noise (panic).
Reflection question: How do you manage your emotions when the stakes are high and the pressure is on?

At Sage Leadership Strategies, this is what we do well – hold the space for leaders to understand their patterns and enhance their approach for greater impact. If you know you can get better results with your constituents but just need some additional support to sort things through, please call us for a complimentary discovery session: 203-730-2103.

© Copyright 2016 Sage Leadership Strategies, LLC. All rights Reserved.

Friday, April 1, 2016

Focus Friday: The Journey from Trauma to Nurturance – Dentists Who Lead In Creating a Nurturing Environment


Dentistry, leadership and nurturing environment. Do all these words really go together in one thought? I don’t know anyone, other than my daughter, who loves going to the dentist. Most people hate going, perhaps because they fear needles, pain, the drill sound or just the unknown.

I myself had a really bad experience about eight years ago. The dentist I had been going to retired, and someone bought his practice. At that time, I had been going to the practice for probably about fifteen years so I stayed and went to “the new guy.” After one or two visits, he discovered a cavity, which I don’t recall having in the previous fifteen years. Here is where it gets hairy.

Ever since I was two years old, I have had an aversion to needles. I was hospitalized with pneumonia and had so many shots of penicillin that it created a hole in my skin and in my psyche. Since then I was terrified of needles. Today, although not pleasant, I can tolerate a poke in the arm. My mouth is a different situation – I’m a sensitive type and have a sensitive nervous system. Even though I practice yoga, and have strengthened it, it’s still sensitive.

But at this time, I had not yet developed a consistent yoga practice and when I went to “the new guy” to fill my cavity, here is what happened: He gave me a shot in my gums. I don’t remember being given a local anesthetic and I don’t remember feeling particularly numb after the injection. When he started to drill, it really hurt. I tried to bear it. Pain is a relative thing. How does one really, objectively know their tolerance for pain? I always say that, even though I am sensitive, I must have a fairly high level of tolerance since, after all, “I gave birth to my daughter without medication.” Shouldn’t that count for some kind of hero’s acknowledgement? It certainly wasn’t a cakewalk and required perseverance, stamina and a gritty will.

Back to the drill. After a while, it was so unbearable, and I felt so vulnerable – there with my mouth open and unable to speak – that I started to groan in agony. The dentist had many options at that point. Here is what he did: he said, “You can feel that?”
What did he think, I was groaning for jollies?
I said, “Yes, I can.”
“You can’t feel that. You shouldn’t be able to feel that.”
“Well I can.”

I don’t remember what happened after that – if he gave me another shot or not. What I do remember is I felt traumatized and shamed. It was a small office and when I walked out, I felt people, including the receptionist, looking at me since they could hear my groans. Was I a baby?

Here is what I did: I wrote a letter to the dentist about my experience – what it felt like for me in his chair. I encouraged him to think differently about how he practiced. I told him I was leaving the practice and I never went back. I sought a holistic dentist who replaced half of my mercury fillings (all paid for out of pocket!) without the trauma. I didn’t do anymore as it was costly and I didn’t want to upset more mercury in my mouth.

A year later, I asked around and had a friend refer me to a dental practice that was covered by my insurance. I have been going to this practice for seven years now. On my first visit, I told the dentist about my previous experience and what I was looking for. She listened and gave me all the time in the world. On subsequent visits, the hygienist does most of the work and the dentist comes in to check – and always with a smile and something upbeat to say. In this timeframe I have only had one small cavity until last week when I needed a crown. I have never had anything other than cavities so I was nervous over this procedure.

I am writing about this today because I had an extraordinary experience that shifted my previous trauma and sense of being taken care of. What happened in this practice is unbelievable.
On the day of my crown, I made it clear how sensitive and nervous I was and reminded the dentist of my traumatic incident. They walked me through in detail everything they were going to do. They handled this procedure so differently than that day eight years ago. First, they gave me a local gel anesthetic before putting a needle in my mouth. Then, they used an instrument, not their judgment, to gauge my level of pain.

After giving me a couple of shots of Novocain, they placed an instrument on my tooth, and had me place my hand on the instrument with the doctor’s so I was in control. I could pull it away when I started to feel it. The way my system works, I didn’t do that but raised a leg instead. The doctor got the message. This instrument had a measure and I had to get up to a score of 80 before they felt it was safe to start to drill. They were surprised, but not upset about how long it took. She kept giving me small dosed shots of Novocain, waiting and checking on my level of sensation. I lost track after six shots. Finally I was ready.

Before they started to drill the dental assistant suggested I could use my iPod. I put in my earplugs and they started to drill. The high pitch of the drill affected me. No problem. She gave me a heavy set of headphones. I turned up my yoga music, closed my eyes and breathed deeply. A couple of times I had a moment of sensation. They stopped. My eyes started to tear. I couldn’t help it. A couple of times I apologized for taking so long and being “such a project.” It also helped that I had my partner there who rubbed my feet during most of the procedure.

The reaction from the dentist and dental assistant was, “no need to apologize. You are just sensitive.” It wasn’t, “you are too sensitive.” It is what it is. They said, “This isn’t bad. There are people who are worse. You just have a hot tooth. It’s not happy. It’s okay.”

A procedure I was told would take ninety minutes took three hours. No complaints or attitude from anyone in the office – just understanding and patience. This was healing for me on so many levels. The entire atmosphere felt accepting and nurturing. I never thought I would use that word for a dentist, but I do. Even the staff in the office were so pleasant, helping me navigate the last month of my dental insurance.

I was so touched when I left that I hugged the dental assistant and the dentist. I now do not have the same sense of dread for future procedures. Because my nerves were tended to with care, I have a lot of nerve for next time.

I also reflected on all of my experiences with this office over time and decided that an office doesn’t just get this way by itself. This is an environment that is set and cultivated by the doctors – the dentists and leaders of the practice are the ones who set the tone. There is a pervasive sense of friendliness and that they are there for the patients and that they really care. Care is the operative word. It’s the water everyone is swimming in, and it’s infectious. I am overwhelmed with gratitude.

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Friday, January 15, 2016

Follow up Friday: Turn on the Light Within

Lightbulb

This week’s question was – Where do you notice yourself getting distracted or looking outside for answers only you can provide yourself? What are some of your most challenging relationships and experiences teaching you?

Here is what I noticed in myself and others – we distract ourselves and look for answers from others when we are afraid. Our egos are wired for security and certainty. You might be afraid of what others think, of doing a presentation, of not having enough money, of not knowing how to do something, etc.

When I am afraid it upsets my focus and ability to get things done. My head gets in an anxious spin. It’s a dark and constricting energy. I have a number of triggers for this. It’s important that I understand these triggers so I can better manage them – so I am driving fear out, it’s not driving me.

Fear is the opposite of love and passion and driven by the instinct of survival. Something is threatening our well being. This threat is real or perceived – it doesn’t matter which, as our brain receives all as real. My solution is to notice and let it go. Sometimes this works and sometimes I need the support of another person – a spouse, boss, colleague, friend – to help me get perspective and/or remind me of what I know is actually true.

Another person can provide you the space to think it through – to talk and be heard. Other times, they provide you with insight. Insight is bringing light to a subject. In either case, you are able to be more expansive and release fear.

We all have our triggers. No one is immune to fear. The key is to recognize it and use it for a signal to turn on the light within – channel the fear into passion, energy, expansion and movement forward. When you are struggling, reach out for reassurance or to get clear about the way forward.

The key is recognizing when you are in this spin of fear and do something about it. Don’t allow it to grow.

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Friday, December 18, 2015

Follow up Friday: Trauma and The Workplace

Monday my reflection questions were: Where are you challenged in your own leadership with bouncing back from set backs or traumatic events? What can you do to foster more open dialogue and listening in situations that involve tension or trauma?

The American Psychological Association defines trauma as “an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer-term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea. While these feelings are normal, some people have difficulty moving on with their lives.”

Trauma is an extreme term that many leaders, if you are not working in fields directly that manage trauma (such as healthcare, the military, security, etc.), shy away from. And yet leaders or office workers are traumatized everyday – because of situations that happen at work – or because of toxic relationships with bosses or co-workers. Ultimately it comes down to the nature of the situation and that person’s make-up – if they are a sensitive person or not.

A traumatic situation at work could be where your life is in physical or emotional danger, or both. Examples could be a bomb threat, shooting or emotional disrespect or abuse. For example, years ago when I was pregnant with my daughter there was a gas leak in my company building. Ironically I was working for a healthcare company at the time. HR evacuated everyone to investigate and, those who had any physical reactions were sent to the hospital. Given my condition, I wanted to make sure nothing happened to the baby.

When I got back to the office, I told my boss I wasn’t comfortable working there that day, even though the inspectors cleared the building. She asked if I wanted to see the EAP (employee assistance program – counseling). I was taken aback. No, I did not. I said there was nothing wrong with my being concerned – it was based in reality not my feelings about reality. I felt my perspective was invalidated. I am not against counseling at all. As a matter of fact, I was trained as a therapist early in my career. In this instance, counseling was not the solution. I didn’t think I was traumatized by the gas leak, just appropriately concerned.

Different situations will trigger different people, based upon their history and sensitivities. You can also be traumatized by abusive or disrespectful relationships.

Here is what I realized this week: if you experience trauma in the context of a relationship, you can do your own work within yourself to come to terms with the relationship going forward. Yet the greatest reconciliation takes place in dialogue with another person.

What do I mean by trauma in the context of a relationship? We all have different levels of where we feel a trauma or not. A colleague and friend of mine uses this term to refer to a situation with a former boss. She says she was traumatized by how she was treated when she worked for that company – blatant yelling and swearing and sabotaging of her work. Sound crazy? It’s not as uncommon as you think. And this person worked in human resources!

A key question is, why does the people system allow behavior like this to continue?

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Wednesday, December 16, 2015

Leadership, Trauma and the Capacity to Stay Present Amidst Tragedy

What the President secretly did at Sandy Hook Elementary School.

Wow. This made me sob.

Thank you Joshua Dubois for giving us a peek into the character of President Obama.

I don’t care what anyone thinks of his politics – for or against – Doing a good job or not.

This man is an amazing human being – To have the strength, authenticity, compassion and tenderness of heart to hold these people’s unfathomable pain in the midst of such tragic loss.

This is what a great leader does: listens, is present, and can bear the unbearable for those he serves. On this day three years ago, President Obama was heroic.

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Tuesday, December 15, 2015

Reflections in Radioland: Leadership, Trauma & Gun Control

I co-hosted another radio show with Xander Gibb on Saturday. We dedicated it to the victims of Sandy Hook, as it was the third anniversary of this tragedy, and John Lennon, as it is the 35th anniversary of his death.

Xandermonium Talk Show

Regardless of where you stand on the gun control issue, one thing is clear: The United States has a problem that needs solving, and it will require concessions on both sides of the issue. In the last 25 minutes of this talk show, Xander Gibb, Brad Greene and I discuss this complex topic.

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Monday, December 14, 2015

Magic Monday: Leadership & Trauma



 Words of Manic Monday by The Bangles and modified by Susan Shaner. Musician: Dan Brodax.

Where can you find the magic at work today?

Today is the third anniversary of Sandy Hook. I am particularly aware of this since I live 15 minutes from the school. When traumas of this nature strike, we are effected on all levels. In the case of Sandy Hook, it hit such a chord because of the nature of it: young, innocent school children sitting in their classroom learning. It undermined the inherent trust we, as parents, have in society when we send our child to school everyday.

First, your mind tries to process what really happened. Then you are overcome with shock, anger, sadness, grief – a range of emotions. These become physical and manifest in the body if not fully processed. Getting clear on your emotions and expressing and releasing them is the way to not have any negative emotions lodge themselves in a vulnerable spot in your body and surface weeks or months down the road via illness or disease.

Leaders are not immune from the stress and effects of trauma. The difference is they have more pressure because all eyes are on them and they have to react in a timely and thoughtful manner. They are responsible, which means having the ability to respond. At a time when they may be experiencing all the emotions of the average person – they have to ensure their frontal lobe – rational brain – is working on all cylinders. So it doesn’t mean they don’t feel to the depths or in ways others do. It’s more a question of what do they do with those feelings and when and how they process them. 

I heard that one of the first responders to Sandy Hook, a professional with many years experience, handed in his resignation immediately after responding to the scene. It was more than he could bear. Everyone has a different capacity to handle such trauma and you never know what your capacity is, until you are confronted with it.

Some people choose professions where managing trauma is a daily occurrence – therapists, doctors, EMTs to name a few. Being an elementary school teacher is a profession where you would not expect to be confronted with trauma on a daily basis. Yet many of those teachers instinctually rose to the occasion – because they put survival and protection before anything else in that moment. In order to do this, parts of the brain have to shutdown. Otherwise, the individual would be overcome with the horrors. Developing strength, resiliency and the ability to compartmentalize are core skills needed for all leaders today in order to navigate crises and traumas so you can effectively lead people to safe solutions. 

Three years from Sandy Hook and sixteen years from Columbine and we still have a serious problem with guns and violence in this country. We all need to help our elected officials better problem solve this issue. In times of crisis and with complex problems, we need deep reflection, engagement and open dialogue to come up with viable, sustainable solutions.

This week’s reflection: Where are you challenged in your own leadership with bouncing back from set backs or traumatic events? What can you do to foster more open dialogue and listening in situations that involve tension or trauma?

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Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Shifting Your Conditioning: Choosing Your Emotional Domain

Yesterday I asked you to rewrite a thought associated with your negative conditioning to make it more positive. This doesn’t necessarily mean that your thought pattern will change. It means you are now aware of the subconscious pattern that has been influencing your life – what you believe to be true. A belief is what you think even if you have no evidence to substantiate it. Beliefs are reinforced by emotions associated with a thought and we look for ways to reinforce our beliefs. We ignore anything that contradicts our beliefs. Now you are going to change a thought and associate other emotions with it and look for ways to reinforce this thought over time.

Having a statement that you say to yourself can be powerful – but only if two things happen – you really believe what you are saying and have some emotion behind it. Once you have an emotionally charged statement you say to yourself over and over, it can’t help but shift your mindset and therefore your actions and results.

For illustrative purposes, I am going to use my example of “I don’t have enough.” This could come into play when thinking about not just money, but enough experience, skills, courage, friends, peace, connections, etc. It can be a negative, self-defeating program running in the background of your mind influencing the way you approach everything. It’s your mindset. When considering the emotional domain, notice what feelings surface as you think of these words. Don’t judge feelings as good or bad.

For me, emotions like fear, defeat, terror, panic surface. How do they serve me? They keep me protected from danger but also can hold me back from things I don’t want to do. At it’s extreme these emotions can paralyze me into non-action. Or they can incite me into action to avoid these feelings – but again, the negative feelings are still running the show.

If I change this phrase to “I have abundance,” this has such a different meaning and feeling. When I dwell on this phrase, feelings like safety, security, feeling full, all surface. I’m not as worried. I need to really believe this is the case, not just recite it to myself or tell myself to feel a certain way. You cannot force yourself to feel certain things – only allow and create the conditions for different feelings to surface.

What helps with this next piece is to visualize and notice all the ways I truly do have abundance like my health, money in the bank, supportive relationships, work I love, etc. When I focus on naming things that are really true, and truly appreciate them, this act associates this thought with these emotions solidifying the conditioning around it. This process requires repetition and choosing to express certain feelings. Your mind got conditioned over many years so it will take practice to shift.
Adding expression, and even music or images (drawings – words or color) can also help with accessing positive emotions. Dwell on your new mantra and enjoy!

Ultimately, the fastest way to release old conditioning is to get really clear about what you are feeling and then to clear the emotions that are negative – detox. Some of this detox is actually a physical process as thoughts and emotions are connected to the body. We are going to continue with the physical domain tomorrow.

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